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Vibrational Healing for an Empowered Life – The Big Seance Podcast #103

Vibrational Healing for an Empowered Life - An Interview with Karen Frazier on The Big Seance Podcast: My Paranormal World #103 - Visit BigSeance.com


What is an energy healer? And are chakras real? Psychic medium and author, Karen Frazier, shares wisdom from her brand new book, Higher Vibes Toolbox: Vibrational Healing for an Empowered Life


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After Tragedy: an author on “healthy shame”…

Yesterday I struggled to pull myself from the cable news coverage of the tragic and senseless killings in Aurora, Colorado. The day was pretty much a wash since I couldn’t get all the sadness out of my head. I could have walked away… and I tried. I spent some time out in the absolutely beautiful weather that we experienced here in my part of Missouri. I even tried a meditation. I struggled to clear my head and ended up right back in front of the TV for most of the day. I don’t live in the Aurora area, and to my knowledge I knew none of the victims or their families, but I was really affected by it all.

I follow the author Karla McLaren on Facebook and I’ve mentioned her here a few times. Among other things, she writes about and discusses empathy and the language of emotions. In short, she often speaks of how important emotions are when they happen. For part of yesterday, I told myself that it was okay that I spent so much time dwelling on the tragedy, even though most people would probably think it wasn’t healthy. Maybe it was something I was meant to be feeling at the moment.

Then, Karla posted the following on her Facebook page.

As we read of yet another gun tragedy and send blessings to the victims, survivors, and the city of Aurora, I’m thinking so much of the vital, irreplaceable work of healthy shame.

In explosive violence, we can all see the panic and rage — out of control, brutal — but what I see more strongly is the absence of healthy shame, which helps people moderate their behavior.

So many of us learned about shame by *being* shamed — but that’s not how shame works in a healthy psyche. In fact, an overly shaming environment can actually create the kind of explosive violence we see in these sorts of tragedies. When people can’t access their own healthy, authentic, intrinsic shame, their behavior often goes off the rails.

Bullying, abuse, and violence — all are clear signs of serious shame impairment. Healthy and appropriate shame is an absolutely irreplaceable emotion that reduces violence and helps us become better people.

Today, along with feeling sadness and grief, I bow to healthy shame as the necessary emotion in this and so many other painful situations. Blessings to us all.

– Karla McLaren

I must admit that I don’t get it exactly. I think I need some explanation. Any thoughts?



So it’s 20 minutes after I posted this. I’ve read it over a few more times and followed some of the commentary on her facebook page. I think I understand better now. I initially thought she meant this as some sort of coping thing for the rest of us… which I didn’t get. But I think she is just saying we should be really happy that “healthy shame” exists because it keeps us from getting into trouble and doing bad things. And be happy you have it, because apparently this guy is missing that skill or part of the brain. Am I there? Maybe? I don’t know.

Thoughts from Karla McLaren on Music & Emotion… a Follow Up…

After yesterday’s post on Moving Musical Experiences and the Meditative State, I thought of Karla McLaren, an author that I follow on Facebook. She is also a social science researcher, a cappella arranger, and an empath. Her most recent journey and writings are on The Language of Emotions.

Yesterday I contacted Karla. I mentioned the post, asked if she had any thoughts or opinions on the topic, and asked the following question:

“Are these just emotions or really truly a heightened state of awareness or meditation?” 

She graciously responded with the three links below along with the following message.

“As you know, I would never say that something was ‘just’ an emotion, since emotions are vital to every possible aspect of our cognition, decision-making, social awareness, relational skill, and intelligence. In the flowchart from emotion to feeling, which requires an emotionally evocative stimuli, music absolutely can be an emotionally evocative stimulus that will evoke a specific emotion.”


This link is from a blog by Maria Panagiotidi, a PhD student interested in cognitive neuroscience/psychology and science in general.

In my middle school vocal music classes we discuss just about everything in this writing. It’s true, kids recognize the modes of major and minor fairly quickly and easily. One of the goofy things that I’ve always done while demonstrating is put a giant smile or frown on my face as I play chords or melodies in either major or minor.

This site of abstracts makes me feel like a grad student again. 🙂 It gave me a physiological response that didn’t have anything to do with music.

And finally, this is a page from the Carnegie Mellon University website

Thanks Karla for helping us out and contributing to the discussion!

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