Children who have spirit friends…

Currently I’m in the middle of reading Volume Two of Andrea Perron’s House of Darkness House of Light, the true story of the decade of events experienced by the Perron family and depicted (loosely, I’m finding out) in the movie The Conjuring. Just in case you’re new to my blog, the movie doesn’t have any direct ties to the book, but is inspired by the case files of Ed and Lorraine Warren.  

I recently read the chapter titled “in the closet”, when I had one of those moments… a moment where you find yourself tearing up and getting deeply into what you’re reading. In this chapter, Andrea writes about experiences that happened to April, the youngest of the five Perron daughters. April doesn’t come up much in Volume One and so far in Volume Two, and I always wondered why. It turns out she had plenty of experiences, perhaps just as many as the other kids in the house, but she refused to open up and discuss them with anyone until just recently. It turns out April has truly been haunted with memories and a pain in her heart since then.


April spent a lot of time alone, or at least that’s what the rest of the family thought. Very early on after moving to the farmhouse, April met the spirit of a little boy, a boy who gradually got comfortable with her presence and friendship, though he was constantly in fear and hiding. They appeared to be about the same age. They would play together, sharing April’s toys while they were alone in her room. When they were done playing he would disappear in a closet to hide. She was never once afraid. She grew to like spending time with him, even though he never spoke. As April grew up to be a teenager, she mentions that often the little boy would peek out of the closet into her room in hopes that she’d decide to play for a while. Not being the same little girl she once was, she ignored him. When she described the disappointed look on his face as he disappeared into the closet once more, that’s when I felt the tug in my heart and my tear ducts proved to be fully functioning. These experiences and the guilt of leaving the little boy at the farm has affected April her whole life.


A common theory is that many or all children are open to seeing spirits on a regular basis, but adults drive this ability out by making them feel ashamed for speaking such nonsense, thus blocking the experiences out of their minds. I wonder how many of us don’t remember a significant friendship or two from childhood. As a child I loved to spend time alone. It was nothing unusual. Very often I’d turn down invitations to play because I had a fun filled day planned out already. When my little sister arrived and was old enough, I was able to drag her through the experiences of things like playing school to keep me occupied. Even though it would be cool to suddenly remember a long lost spirit friend from my childhood, I don’t recall ever having an additional student in the attic or “imaginary friend”. After this chapter I kind of wish I did, although I would not want the sadness that has followed April.


I know that for several of my readers, seeing or feeling the presence of spirits is not an unusual thing, but I’m curious to know how many people had a spirit friend as child that no one else knew about. Please share!



Flies and Hauntings: "You can't really kill what's already dead." (Big Séance)

Flies and Hauntings: “You can’t really kill what’s already dead.” (Big Séance)

Apparitions (Big Séance)

Apparitions (Big Séance)

Investigation Report of a Private Residence in St. Peters, Missouri (Big Séance)

Investigation Report of a Private Residence in St. Peters, Missouri (Big Séance)

About Patrick Keller

Patrick Keller is an educator, blogger, and the host of the Big Séance Podcast, which is a place for paranerds to have an open discussion on all things paranormal, but specifically topics like ghosts and hauntings, paranormal research, spirit communication, psychics and mediums, and life after death. He’s the founder of the now inactive Missouri Spirit Seekers and has spent a lot of time experimenting with spirit communication tools and techniques, such as EVP. Patrick also has a passion for spending hours at a time in cemeteries and loves cemetery photography. Visit! View all posts by Patrick Keller

6 responses to “Children who have spirit friends…

  • Gary Leigh

    I saw The Conjuring with my partner last Saturday. It was odd, she nearly burst my eardrums with her loud shrieks and I was sitting there, almost a little bored.

    The movie didn’t feel all that realistic to me, in spite of the fact it’s based on a true story.

    However, I did research a little into it, and discovered that those 2 hours were described as broad strokes to capture a 10 year period.

    The interview I heard felt more authentic.

    I really wish movie producers would stop embellishing the events and adding fictional parts to it and just tell the story. Those things are good enough to stand in their own right.

    Amirtyville Horror suffered from a similar problem.

    It doesn’t really help anyone’s case.

    • Patrick

      Yeah the Perrons lived in the farmhouse for not quite ten years. The family, mainly Andrea, as well as Mrs. Warren have given their blessing for the movie and have said it was pretty accurate. I’m nearly halfway through the second volume and I’m finding it is pretty different. But it’s a lot. They are two giant volumes. I don’t even imagine or picture events from the movie anymore. It’s a whole different story now in my head.

      • Gary Leigh

        Be interested to see what your final thoughts are.

        I’m in the process of finalizing my own story and wonder if it’s a wise move to even release such a thing.

        As you seem to review such things, would you be interested in doing so for this document? Your impartial views would be quite valuable.

      • Patrick

        If you click on the Conjuring link in the first paragraph, that’s my review from the screening.

    • Patrick

      I will still say, however, that I thought the movie was amazing… but I was really worked up for it after doing research before seeing the early screening.

  • Maria Laing

    I was just writing about this topic of “imaginary friends” today! I don’t recall having one, but there is no doubt one of my son’s did. Additionally, into his elementary school days he also saw and communicated with spirit, particularly with an woman who sat on his bed at night and talked to him. Eventually he asked me to change his bedroom because he said she was keeping him awake and he was tired. I did change his room and as far as I know, she then left him alone so he could sleep. The house we lived in was built in 1830, not far from Gettysburg, Pennsylvania. There is a lot of dramatic history in that area. I have no doubt of spirit presence in that house as I also encountered spirit activity. Maybe there was more than one; it was difficult to distinguish. It is my opinion that there were two. They were not malicious, They pulled pranks and ran around the house and up and down the stairs. I often wondered if his imaginary friend “paved” the way for him to retain his ability to see and speak with spirit longer than his preschool years. His imaginary friend was with him long before, in another house in Washington, D.C., before that. Thanks for your post. It is intriquing! I’d be interested in hearing of your follow up about imaginary friends, if you do so. Thank you for this post!

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